February 16 – “Daddy Duties”

Didn’t realize it was already February. Last post I had was around the 28th of last month. Here I thought it will be easier to post since I have my hardware now.

Let me give you a quick look of how my day to day looks like: I do my daddy duties every morning, and go to work at night. I take a nap with my kid to save energy, since I have to wait for my wife to come home and sub me from my daddy tasks. I get 4 hours of consecutive sleep every day, tops. Although that does not include the naps my son and I take. Depending on his mood, he normally naps for an hour, but some days, it only takes a few minutes. That leaves almost no time for anything else.

Not that I’m complaining.

One of my colleagues also noticed that I look more like a dad now. I instinctively touched my tummy, but thankfully he did not mean that I have a parent gut yet. He just wanted to point out the ever growing eye bags I currently have.

Ain’t that the truth.

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(This is also something new to me: using a Daily Post for a topic.)

I still can’t believe it. I am a dad now, happily married with a very cute son! Time flew by so fast.

With marriage comes a lot of unfamiliar, and sometimes uncomfortable, things. One of which is visiting my wife’s relatives, and attending and even hosting events! One of the most recent events that we hosted was our son’s baptism, held December 28, last year.

I am a loner, and growing up in a family with little to no interaction with relatives, I became socially awkward. I have been trying to improve, but I am still a work in progress. My family also had little financial capabilities, so we didn’t really have any major celebrations, skipping birthdays or traditional holidays altogether, like Christmas or New Year’s Eve celebrations. I am also an agnostic, meaning I am religion-free.

Hosting my son’s baptism was for my wife’s wishes, and hosting the reception was also her idea. I would have preferred a smaller gathering, strictly for immediate family members.

I didn’t really know what to do. I ended up just walking around and smiling awkwardly to her relatives and friends.

It was a smorgasbord of everything I was against, but the event, and myself, turned out quite well.

Here’s the only shot that I can share, my son not included. My wife and I are in agreement to keep our lives as private as possible, even limiting our pictures in this journal:

My Beautiful Wife and Myself

Who would have thought?

Alpha’s Home

It took me a while before I was able to start this post. I may have been thinking too much, or trying too hard to make this special. I guess, just like everything else, I have to be average. I wanted to make this post as heart-warming as the posts I have read from first time dads with their expert word skills. I am not one of them, and I have to be reminded of this every day.

In this case, I’ll just say it like it is; my son is home, and so our journey begins.

Alphaeus Mikhail
Photo courtesy of his mom

He was born May 16, via the Emergency Caesarian operation since he pooped too early and he unfortunately ingested some of it. He was 6 pounds, although I’m pretty sure her mom will say he felt heavier.

Welcome to the world, Alpha.

On a side note, I am now looking into adding another job, a part time job, as soon as I can. I am working for his future now, so a singular job does not cut it.

Goodbaby for my Baby

I fell in love with this stroller the first time I saw it.

I admit , it’s a bit too early since we are not expecting our Alpha until late April, or early May. I’ll just keep looking at it everyday in anticipation of his arrival.

Oh, and we also bought him a nice folding crib. We were supposed to buy our office clothes and shoes, but when we passed by the baby section, we forgot what we came to the mall for in the first place.

The joys of parenting.

Shopping for Alpha

We bought a few clothes for our baby yesterday and I can’t believe how happy I felt! Normally I frown at anything that requires me to go to a cashier and pay. We bought a onesie with a bib that says “I Love Daddy” and three pairs of tank tops and shorts.

We bought it a little big anticipating our baby’s size, and to make sure that he will be able to wear it until it no longer fits. ImageImage

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I could have bought more, if not for the fact that money is a thing, and it is not infinite. My fiancee and I talked about how we hate shopping for our own clothes, but had a change of heart when we saw baby clothes. Parenthood, maybe?

We also checked out a few cribs, and strollers. We haven’t decided what to get but we are already eyeing a few. We may go with buying it online though, as it is a little cheaper.

Having said all that, I suck at taking pictures. I literally took these pictures a few seconds before I decided to write this post. I felt awkward using the phone’s camera, but I need to have something to show. My blog has been all words lately, primarily because I suck at photography.

We also downloaded Baby Music app, created by Elite Solutions. We play it before my fiancee goes to sleep. I read somewhere that it helps for the baby’s brain development. I hope this is true, too.

Baby Music

I also ticked “This post is super awesome” while editing this. I don’t know what that does, though. Here goes nothing!

Year Starter

  To start 2014, I will be literally writing more than I did last year. I have had a lot of things on my plate, but I do know that I could have inserted writing in between my work-schedule and family obligations.Same thing with reading; I have not had a sit-down with a book the past few years. Work ate up almost the entirety of my time, that I figured I will just rest on whatever time I have left, which is not a good thing, writing-reading-learning wise. Plus, I have my son (recently confirmed gender) to look forward to this year, so I have to be a good example for him. I want him to start writing his journals early, learn to read early and be smart (street and school). 

  My colleague also inspired me indirectly to write more. She was given a quaint notebook by another colleague, and she promised to write something everyday, even just as simple as her taking her medicine. She was also a blogger, but stopped when work ate much of her free time as well. 

 I am not sure if this is the way I want to start my year but I have been spending too much time on clinics, and hospitals lately. I have been accompanying my fiancee to her OB-GYN, and I had to have myself checked too, since I have had colds since last year. These visits are a mixture of good and bad news. The good news: we were able to confirm that the baby is abnormality free, and that he is a boy!!! I have a mini-me! The bad news is that, I have an allergy to something. I was given a set of medicines to take, and will undergo an allergy test to see where I am allergic to. 

 Going back to my boy, we want to  name him Alphaeus Mihkhail. I think I have said this before, but that’s first time parenthood for ya! A lot of people have been telling us that the name is too unique, and that our boy is going to have a hard time writing his name, et cetera. I say he’s going to be smart, and his name is great!

Next on our list is our civil wedding. Now, I will elaborate on my next post, since this is a sensitive subject, especially to me. Why, you ask? Again, next post! 

I have a few more classes to run this week, so if I will be true to my words and write everyday, everything will be about work, rants or everyday stuff. But, at least I will be writing! I may ask for the nice notebook that my fiancee bought, but hardly used. 

I will leave you guys with the result of my most recent X-Ray, showing my crooked nose, which thankfully, does not do any harm to me (according to an ENT expert). 

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First Time Dad Hopes

It has been a good year for me, capped off by the confirmation of my fiancee’s pregnancy. It was a surprise at first, with my pessimistic thoughts (Will we be able to support him/her financially?) to first-time daddy plans (We should teach him/her 2 languages, English and our vernacular, Filipino, so he/she has an advantage.) 

I will be honest, I am expecting a rough first few years, until we get used to the baby’s schedules (feeding, pooping, cleaning up, pacifying) to our schedules (work, eat, take care of the baby, try to get some sleep, repeat).

We have bought a few baby-related stuff in advance, and I am trying to borrow a few more from my colleagues, since they told me that the first year will be the most expensive year, as the baby will grow rather quickly. It’ll help us save a few bucks here and there.

I have a lot of plans running in my head right now, that I don’t even know how to translate it in a post. I want to make sure that we will be able to provide what the baby needs (the baby’s gender will be confirmed next year), but at the same time, we don’t want to raise a spoiled brat.

We will be living with my parents for a short while, until we get the stability that we need. My parents are very supportive, and they’ve been through 4 pregnancies, so their knowledge is bountiful. I also need their presence when the baby arrives; I cannot think of any other environment more suitable to raise a kid other than my parents’ abode. They raised me and my siblings well, and I am hoping of raising a carbon copy of me too.

I am hoping for a baby boy, but as long as the baby is healthy, I don’t mind any gender. One of my sexist colleagues already ribbed me about having the possibility of having a homosexual offspring. To be honest, I don’t even care. As long as he/she grows up to be smart, and nice. I will accept him/her, whatever sexual preference he/she has.

We already came up with a name. If we have a boy, he will be named Alphaeus Maximillan. If it’s a she, then she will be named Alphaea Maxim. The root words Alpha and Max means “First Born” and “The Greatest”, respectively. Some people told me that the child will have a hard time with the name, to which I re-butt: “My child won’t be stupid. He/she won’t have a difficult time with his/her own name.”

I am also planning on starting a blog for all the stories that I would like to tell my kid. I got the idea with my own parents’ love of sharing their own stories. I want to share it to my child verbally, and if we’re gone, he/she has a repository to go through.

I am also hoping that my child shares the same interest I have with writing and reading. I don’t want to expose him too early to consoles, video games, social media. I would like him/her to appreciate the books, the board games, the physical activities that we normally have at home. After a few years, I will eventually let him/her learn about technology.

I have a lot of plans! I hope most of them will be met, and for me and my fiancee to be great parents.